Believe it or not there is this one person out there in the universe that is your number one hurdle to success. This person almost always gets in the way. This person is not obvious but, eventually, he or she will undermine or even flat-out sabotage you if you’re not careful.
No, this person is not one of your parents. This person is not the schoolyard bully. This person is not in your circle of friends, or even a known enemy of yours. Give up yet? This person spells his or her name this way: Y-O-U.
You have to understand that to achieve any kind of greatness or to even change, you have to first overcome yourself. If you don’t understand this, then you have a serious problem in your hands because, you see, people are creatures of habit. When we’re used to a certain pattern, we don’t want to change. We think that we can milk that pattern for all its worth.
We fear change because it means that we are going to have to confront the way that we look at things. This means that we’re going to have to put in effort. This means that we are going to change our emotional attachment to the things that we’ve already grown accustomed to. In other words, we don’t like moving around mental and emotional furniture so we’d rather stay put.
This is all too understandable and that’s why a lot of people struggle. This is why a lot of people live far below their fullest potential. They’d rather stick to the devil they know than go and roll the dice with the devil they don’t know.
However, here’s the thing. If you want to achieve greatness in your life and if you will really want to feel that you have done something worthwhile with your life, you must first overcome this tendency to stick to the status quo and boy, do you have this tendency!
Believe it or not, most people would rather stay with the most horrific relationships, the most messed-up self-image, or the most unrewarding and so-draining jobs than go out on a limb. They’d rather stick to hell rather than take a gamble on possibly getting a piece of heaven.
I know this sounds crazy. It seems counterintuitive. After all, you’re feeling stuck. You know how miserable you are. You know that you’re not really living up to your fullest potential. You know that, up to some degree, you are living in a personal hell, if not a personal purgatory.
However, for the life of you, you have a tough time overcoming that and simply choosing to do things differently. At the very least, you don’t want to change the way you look at things because it might lead to scary things.
This is really the crux of the matter. Overcoming yourself means discovering yourself.
There might be certain things that you might find out that will sit well with you. There may be uncomfortable truths. They may reveal certain biases or mindsets that you have that you’re embarrassed about. They might even point you towards a childhood trauma or negative belief systems that you’ve simply swept under the rug for all these years. Whatever form it takes, we just don’t want to be bothered with the heavy emotional and mental lifting required.
The good news is by starting out fresh, we recycle a lot of the stuck energy that has been frozen and all the guilt, remorse, and other negative coping mechanisms that we have built up over the years. This is frozen mental and emotional energy and when you destroy that mental house to start new again to build your life on assumptions and belief systems that you yourself consciously chose, you are actually unlocking a tremendous amount of power. This is how you achieve greatness. This is how you build a life worth living for yourself.
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